3.TWELVE L ITTLE T RICKS<br>to Develop an Extraordinary Gift of Gab
22.How to Never Hesitate Starting or Joining a Conversation
23.How to Make Your Point When You Keep Getting Interrupted
do not preface a point with the identical words each time
It made you sound fixated on saying one thing rather than following the conversation.
Give a Different Preface to Introduce Your Same Point
So as not to sound like you are perseverating on the same idea.preface your<br>point with diff erent words the next time around.
Your listeners will never guess you were going make your original point.
Old wine in new bottles works every time.
EXAMPLES
Many people have a different opinion, but mine is that Jennifer should have . . .”<br>“Considering the situation, don’t you think that Jennifer should have . . .”<br>“I know the tabloids went crazy, but don’t you think that Jennifer should have . .
24.How to Make Friends with Those Who Don’t Speak Your Native Language
you must slow your speech down—way down.
To connect with non-native people, you<br>need to learn a new, very simple language. It’s called<br>Really, Really Slowly Spoken English.
25.How to Tailor Your Talk to Your Listener(s)
Match Your Words to Their Educational Level
Diversity isn’t just race, color, and creed. It’s<br>linguistic, too—even though it is all the same<br>language.
26.Don’t Speak of Your “Haves” with “Have-Nots”
Never talk about a luxury that would be unobtainable<br>for the person(s) you are communicating with.
Many “necessities” of life to the middle class<br>are unheard-of luxuries to those in less privileged<br>circumstances.
Keep your diff erences a secret, and<br>celebrate your similarities
27.How to Save Someone from “Dying of Embarrassment”
Her Emotional Prediction Tried to Save Me
If the speaker says something that she may soon<br>realize is mistaken, mispronounced, or just plain<br>dumb, quickly jump in and cover it.
Say something<br>distracting rapidly so there is little time for it to<br>dawn on her that she’s been a dimwit.
28.How to Smoothly Change the Subject
Echo Their Words and Link Them to Yours
To change the subject, repeat or rephrase the most<br>recent speaker’s words or idea, then tie it to yours.
If you include or allude to what someone just said,<br>people won’t even notice that you’ve changed the<br>topic!
Of course, there are many times when you should not<br>change the subject, no matter how boring it is for you.
29.How to Know When to Never Change the Subject
Never Change a Subject Someone Else<br>Finds Special
30.How to Not Give the Same Answer Twice
Use Different Words the Second Time You<br>Must Answer the Same Question
Save someone’s face (and possibly her friendship) by<br>responding to her repeated question with diff erent<br>words.
Then quickly continue the conversation<br>so she doesn’t have time to register her fumble.
